Why Fall in Love?



As I spent the better part of yesterday in the limbo that exists in between discussions of feelings, fantasy and fear that move the synchronized pulse of lovers to a clash of syncopated and isolated heartbeats, I could see clearly why so many people avoid falling in love at all costs.

 

From the gentle decree — I’ll never fall in love again to the anthem of the independent man — Love Hurts some of us build walls around our tenderness to forever avoid bleeding love . Which is why some romantics reach for their running shoes at the first sign that THIS may be the ONE. And even when you can’t stop yourself from the L word, you can always try the bold face lie —  — I’m not in love and see how far that gets you.

Because when we find our self wide open and willing to be monogamous — which by the way thesaurus.com claims is a synonym of IMPOTENT, small wonder few men choose monogamy — we automatically become enrolled in Pain and Suffering 101 not to be confused with Pain and More Suffering (PMS) which is a graduate class that has recently become an independent study course because the professor simply couldn’t manage the weekly discussions so the physical class disbanded.

Fact is .. if you are a sentient being in love … it physically hurts when we are at odds with our heart’s desire. We feel unsettled, out of step, our head spinning stories while throbbing in pain. We adhere meaning to the mishap which feeds our egoic mind of our own unworthiness or that of our partner because in the end they are both one and the same. When we are IN LOVE our heart seems to become as fragile as a porcelain doll. Any bump in the road can cause a hairline fracture that in time will cause us to loose face.

So then why is Match.com, ChristainMingle.com  — not to be confused with Christian Nymphos  — Buddhist PassionsOld Souls Pagen Dating , or Gay Friend Finder not to mention Ashley Madison  for those who just can’t get enough of the drama — booming businesses?

Because try as we might and despite what we outwardly say … LOVE HAPPENS and we are at its mercy if not its beck and call girl. So while some embrace the dance  and willingly get their hand stamped for the roller coaster ride of a lifetime as others deny their feelings and suffer silently unwilling to tell the object of their affection that they are everything that they ever wanted … no one has immunity as love infects each of us in its unique and contagious way.

So we endure the days when our insides feel like they’ve been bathed in battery acid and there is a troll with a Ball-peen hammer  pounding on our amygdala,  — because having it ALL means inviting it all to tea. And LOVE really isn’t about an object outside of our Self. Because in Truth … all that we ARE at the essence of our Being IS LOVE.

Which is why hearing the words at the end of a long day — “I will never leave you, no matter how many times we don’t see eye to eye” instantly completes a circuit in our romantic code and we are uplifted and held in the bliss that IS the always and unconditional beauty of LOVE.

 

 

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